How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
Book - 2012
Faber and Mazlish use real-life situations to show how you can respect and respond to your child's feelings and satisfy your own needs.
Publisher:
New York : Scribner Classics, 2012
Edition:
1st Scribner hardcover ed., 30th anniversary ed
ISBN:
9781451663877
1451663870
9781451663884
1451663889
1451663870
9781451663884
1451663889
Branch Call Number:
HQ755.8 .F3 2012x
649.1 Fab
649.1 Fab
Characteristics:
xiv, 345 p. : ill. ; 22 cm
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Uniform Title:
How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk


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Add a CommentI love this book, practical advice that is easy to memorize and incorporate in your daily life with children.
I recently read the sequel to this book (written by the author's daughter), How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen... So, much of the information and many of the suggestions in this book were quite familiar. In all honesty, the main reason I read this one too was to remind myself of what I knew it would say. Because sometimes toddlers drive you a little nuts.
I would highly recommend either or both books to parents looking for a combination of psychology and common sense in raising children. I appreciate the authors' matter of fact tone and complete lack of condescension. I like that they provide lots of different stories and examples. The cartoons are a nice way to contrast different ways of interacting with kids. And I appreciate that the books acknowledge that nobody's ever going to be perfect all the time and that we all get many 'second chances' if things don't go well the first time.
Very practical, easy to read, step by step guides. Love the cartoon illustrations and also the real life examples from actual parents.
This book stands the test of time- it has been reccommended for years and is still relevant
This is a great book! Other than some parenting advice that I do not agree with (going against natural/aware/attached parenting) I really found the advice helpful and interesting.
The specific topic I didn't agree with was manipulating children to our goals/desires. I think it was a small passage in there, tucked away in one chapter, but it still made me upset to read it, and I don't believe that parenting in the manner of trying to CONTROL your children will result in anything but rebellious behaviours.
The rest of the book was fabulous, as it really helped parents understand where their children's underlying needs were coming from, reminding them that the behavior usually comes from an emotion need or release.
This 30-year-old book has changed my life. I'd recommend it to absolutely anyone with kids of any age. It's very accessible, if slightly outdated in places, and it's chock-full of practical tips that can be used immediately. My 3 year old daughter isn't particularly difficult, but I've gone from an average of one time-out a day to virtually nil. I honestly feel she's becoming a more confident and capable child, and I feel far better prepared to cope with the regular upsets of life with children. I read this amid a binge of five self-help parenting books, and this was by far the most helpful on a practical level.